A response is not necessary

You have heard the expression that somethings are better left unsaid. Not every action deserves a response. I was talking to someone and I told this person that everything does not require a response. The easiest way to aggravate someone is just not to respond. I also told her to watch the person’s reaction when you don’t respond….It drives folks nuts. I am usually a person who responds to everything but of course maturity has taught me to just sit back, listen and enjoy the show!

Now you may think oh how arrogant of you but let me explain. Years back I had a very intense conversation with someone, and I was yelling, crying, and just consumed with anger. This event went on for about 10-15 minutes. This person said little in response and just stood there watching me make a fool of myself. I continued to express my feelings and they did not have much to say, they were giving me my moment. After this event I felt physically and mentally drained. I was so emotionally upset that I could not get out of bed the next day and promised myself that I will never do that again. I wanted a response so badly but then realized that it was not necessary. This is not to say that I have not had any slip ups, but I am human.

Resolving grievances can bring closure and could help you turn the page. But do not get stuck trying to look for something that may be nonexistent. Just remember that the reaction or response you are seeking might surprise you. However, deciding whether it is worth the aggravation can save you a whole lot of energy.